Listen

If my wounds

are the source
of my greatest power,
then my gift is the gift of insight.

I am gifted with knowledge
of how it feels to be old,
while I am still young.

I could sink into despair,
frustration and bitterness,
or I could flip the coin

and use this experience
to expand my compassion,
to share that knowledge,

my understanding.
Patience is the lesson
that comes from pain;

and courage of heart.
True strength is not
what you think.

I say to the young,
when you are old
you will know

why I do as I do,
for now you can only
imagine

and listen,

most of all, listen.

© Janey Colbourne 2017

Awaken (to the wonder)

This is an important message…

Awaken

How have we come to this?
Minutely absorbed
in desperate days.
Vainly seeking
transient bliss in triviality,
we miss infinity.

Blinded by our own lights,
we miss the night sky,
a reminder of
the immensity of awe.
We seek to light the dark
because we are afraid.

Afraid of the vast
and glorious universe.
Afraid to be so small,
yet not seeing how
we are smallest
when we flee.

Behind the concrete,
invented reason.
Ethereal illusions fade
without true soil,
a feeble substitute
for freedom.

Brave dissolution in expansion
beyond the flickered dreams.
An open soul is whole.
Awaken to the wonder,
seek out the night sky,
and remember…

© Janey Colbourne words 2016 recording 2017

A Message for Girls

Girls, when you are finding your feet in this world, on the cusp of being an adult and looking for ways to show it, you have no idea how beautiful you all are, in your individuality. Don’t let the world tell you how you need to change; remove hair here, paint it in there. Do not judge each other harshly. What is most beautiful is your soul shining through, expressed in your unique shapes and gestures, the sparkle in your eyes, and your fresh faced youth. No need to hide behind a mask. Beauty is greatest in self acceptance, for then our souls truly inhabit our bodies and make us glow with life. This is not just platitudes, it is truth. Enjoy who you are now, for youth does not last. Our bodies stop growing, but if we allow it, our spirits just keep on expanding.

© Janey Colbourne 2017

Heteronormative Dictator a #poem

Did you fancy girls
When you were 13?
Did anyone try to say,
No you must be gay?

So you know better
Than the boy himself.
Your heteronormative
Privilege dictates
He has no right
To say who he is
Himself.

He must be confused.
How can anyone know
They are gay?
How did you know
you were straight?

How dare you
Dictate
His right to know
His own feelings,
His own desires.

Imagine yourself
At 13,
Those first awakenings
To your adult identity.
Your first crush,
Crushed

By the arrogance
Of those
Who see not
Your heart.

©Janey Colbourne 2017

Here is the spoken word version on my YouTube channel

My Strength. A poem.

My strength is not in holding back my emotions,
but in being prepared to face the darkness.
My strength is not in never showing fear,
but in holding its hand and walking on.
My strength is not in immunity to pain,
but in perseverance throughout it.
My strength is not in lack of tears,
but in letting them go and moving on.
My strength is not in being invincible,
but in being flexible.
My strength is not in body,
but in heart and mind and soul.

© Janey Colbourne 2017

 

Neurodiversity and Human Evolution

This may sound like rather a grand title, but bear with me, as I take you down a train of thought.

ADHD medicines-stimulants such as Concerta- can have significant benefits in terms of being able to concentrate for longer periods of time, and therefore may increase productivity and the ability to fit in with the expectations of society. I have found that Concerta improves my verbal and auditory processing. Normally I prefer to read and write rather than listen and speak, because that is where my processing strengths are. Listening is very hard for me, as my mind gets stimulated and charges off along a thought train. Concerta has helped me to concentrate on listening. I feel more relaxed in social situations-less stressed and anxious- because I am not worried about being able to keep track of conversations, or of being able to speak coherently, and am less exhausted by it all. Since taking Concerta I have noticed a tendency to become more hyperfocused. This can be very useful for completing tasks. However I have noticed I seem to have less control over what I get focused on. I’ve also noticed more difficulty with transitioning from one task to the next, tending to get stuck in a rut, and more difficulty in being organised- my planning and time management seems worse. I wondered if this is because, having reduced my ADHD distractibility, it is showing some of my autistic traits more strongly. Then a significant idea occurred to me. What if Concerta reduces the positive benefits of ADHD as well as the negative?

If in ADHD we have a tendency for a ‘butterfly’ mind, flitting around; this is useful for creative thinking and in being aware of many things at once, of multitasking, or at least jumping around mentally, so that it is easier to leap to the next task, or to have it pop into awareness, interrupting the focus, but also preparing us to move on when necessary. Having the ADHD traits reduced also means the ‘random’ ideas that pop up are less likely to occur, reducing potential for creativity. These effects are not necessarily helpful for a writer. It seems that my ADHD contributes to my writing skills. I have heard it said that there is a fine line between ADHD and high creativity. Concerta is useful for improving my reading and listening focus-for taking in specific information, and I have found some improvement in both verbal and written discussions. However I feel that there is something missing-something has been lost in the process. This is interesting as it reminds me of what happens in the brain in the process of learning to read. Pre-literate societies, and dyslexics, have better skills in the area of taking in information from the broader environment. This means they are able to notice details and changes in the environment that those with high reading skills might miss. In hunter-gatherer societies those who would be diagnosed dyslexic by a literate society have the advantage.

The process of learning to read causes changes in the brain, increasing skill in one area, but at the price of another. The skill of reading also changes our perception in a more philosophical sense. Reading is a process of understanding abstract symbols, and it immerses us in an exclusively human realm. It shifts our reflections from the natural world around us, to the world of human thought. We see the world in terms of human words, symbols and ideas, and less in terms of the more-than-human world around us. As we read, we are prompted to focus on our own internal thoughts and reflections on the abstract information in front of us. We gain an enormous capacity for obtaining knowledge and communicating with our fellow humans, but at the expense of a different skill and connection. We lose our universal ‘language’.

Developing verbal skills may have a similarly dramatic effect on the brain. Autistics have described the change in their experience of the world in the process of being trained to become verbal. There is a loss of sensory immersion and intensity, where previously this aspect of perception was incredibly rich. As the mind is trained to develop the verbal reasoning skills, the sensory capacity and perception is altered. This resonates with what we know occurs in normal development in young children. Babies have a much greater number of synaptic connections than adults. There is a process of ‘pruning’, where rarely used synaptic connections in the brain are reduced and frequently used ones are strengthened. This allows more efficiency in the areas that, through early life experience, the brain finds to be most useful or important.

Most people have little memory of their experiences as pre-verbal babies, so that we are unable to recall what effect this process had on us at an age where we might be able to articulate this experience. Semantic memory is the process in which the hippocampus in the brain assembles a collection of information from various areas in the brain. This can be stored as a memory. Before semantic memory, episodic memory stores isolated information in various areas of the brain and the ability to associate or differentiate collections of memories is limited. When semantic memory develops, abstract thought and language development become possible. Verbal reasoning is used for abstract thought, which is a means to categorise and integrate experiences-to make links between events, and also to separate them. The capacity to differentiate and to link the meanings of events allows us to construct a map of reality. Verbal reasoning increases our ability to build expectations and responses that sustain across a greater time frame, therefore we build lasting memories and associations and a sense of time. This focus on the inner thought processes and on communication diverts some focus from the timeless, present-in-the-moment sensory experience that connects us to the world around us. Our primary connection begins to transfer from sensory immersion to the realm of human communication. In literate societies the next great leap in this process is in learning to read.

In highly populated, literate societies, where humanity is the dominant species, we are expected to use abstract thought and communication, living and interacting almost exclusively in the human realm, to a very high degree for most of our lives. There is little respite from this ongoing experience, and little consideration that anyone might want respite from this.

To a neurotypical extrovert this is an alien concept that appears to serve little purpose. But what if there is a point and a purpose? What if we are missing something by not considering this? Evolution can only take place where there is room for change and adaptation. Clearly the dominant culture has been highly successful and therefore self-perpetuating, but could it be the individuals on the fringes, the ‘misfits’, who have the skills or awareness to sense where change is needed in order for humanity to evolve and adapt to the future environment? Those who are highly adapted to the dominant culture are less likely to be able to detect adaptive problems in the system that will become significant to the majority, in time. It has been said that autistics have a feeling of living in a bubble or jar, disconnected or isolated from the majority. What if everyone else is living in a bubble, but for neurotypicals that bubble is so large they are unaware of it, until some great event bursts through it and forces change? Those outside a particular bubble cannot know what it feels like to live within it, but they can also see what occurs outside of it, that the bubble inhabitants are oblivious to; even when prompted, the ‘bubble-ees’ may only see outside as if through a veil, cushioned by the apparent security and permanence of the bubble. War, climate change, inequality and injustice, disability and pain, do not really exist for us until the bubble is burst.

Those with the capacity for different styles of thinking and perception may not have the advantage in the current mainstream way of life, but may become humanity’s most valuable assets in the coming future. Aside from communication, diversity and creativity are the hallmarks of being human, and the reason we are masters of adaptation.